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What is your super power as a woman? Why is it that femininity has fascinated, emboldened and intimidated for thousands of years?&nbsp;In tantra, the woman’s role in the world and in the spiritual evolution of the man, and of society at large, is of supreme importance.&nbsp;There are certain everyday qualities which we can cultivate as women in order to improve our self-confidence and the way we manifest in the world. This, in turn, will improve our relationships and inspire those around us.&nbsp;Often these qualities are not immediately obvious, but they give a subtle charge that make the woman who humbly displays them very magnetic and admirable.&nbsp;Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but a true and lasting beauty, one that will keep a conscious man falling in love with you over and over, is the radiant embodiment of the qualities we are going to talk about in this article.A superficial man is like a magpie, always attracted by something that is shiny and new, until something else comes along and steals their attention, and them, away. A conscious man is different, he’s not content with just the veneer or the fancy packaging, he wants to discover your depths. He wants a partner whose qualities compliment him and inspire them both to become the best they can possibly be.Here, in no particular order, are those qualities that, once awakened, will attract more conscious men, women and opportunities to you, and make you an inspiring leader in your own life. It’s no coincidence that some of the most iconic female role models in history have clearly had these qualities in abundance!IndependenceIndependence is a quality that has attracted human attention for a long time; notions of freedom and autonomy are the building blocks of groups and nations. All humans were given free will; and the discovery of what this means to each of our life paths is what makes us unique beings.&nbsp;People admire those who have discovered what matters to them, and pursue it. Conscious people are inspired by those who follow noble or unselfish goals and visions, often independently of societal or familial expectations.&nbsp;A conscious man is one who is on his life’s journey and following his vision, the woman who can embrace such a man has to also value her independence. A real woman will not make a man the sole object or motivation in her life, she will still have her own purpose and goals. A strong man needs a strong woman.&nbsp;Contrary to some popular myths that powerful men seek weaker women who they can dominate, the reality is very different. A genuinely strong man is not intimidated by an independent woman, but motivated and inspired.&nbsp;However, it is also important to note that neither a woman nor a man should be so independent that the space for the relationship is ignored, and both should ensure that they are fully present with each other when together.Indeed, it is spoken about in Tantra that a couple are two strong and independent people who consciously choose to be together because the result of their union; emotionally, erotically, spiritually etc., far exceeds what is possible for them as individuals or with less compatible partners.&nbsp;Therefore, working on your own goals and self-development allows a constant source of renewed energy to enter into a relationship and this helps keep the love fresh and vibrant. The independent woman allows a new her to be discovered in her depths, constantly, by the man who adores her.Emotional MaturityA conscious man is tender, compassionate and understanding of a woman and her emotions. But a conscious woman must take ownership of her emotions and happiness; not project the responsibility for these onto her lover, or anyone else.Personal responsibility, the foundation of which is self-awareness, allows us to understand our feelings and their origins in any given moment. We then search for the tools and means to effectively communicate these to those around us, in a calm and non-confrontational manner.An emotionally mature woman will not create drama, blame or criticise, but will share her emotions in an honest and genuine way, being unafraid to express her vulnerability. After all, vulnerability creates intimacy. She trusts her partner to connect to her and embrace her with his masculine strength, tenderness and awareness.&nbsp;Emotional maturity does not mean aloofness; in fact it is quite the opposite. To understand the depths of our emotions and those of our partner, we need to be willing to be humble; to dive into uncomfortable conversations, reveal things it’d be easier to ignore. To put ourselves in what can seem, to our egos, like emotionally risky situations, in order for the relationship to deepen or progress.&nbsp;A conscious woman also needs to know how to nurture and support her beloved in his difficult moments. Sometimes all she needs to do is offer a warm embrace full of feminine love, and ask the question ‘what can I do to support you?’ Which leaves an opening for the man to ask for what he needs, if he knows! And if he doesn’t, the mature woman can be stable and emotionally responsible enough to support him selflessly in that conversation; without being reactive or taking things personally.&nbsp;Playfulness and HumourOne of the great gifts a woman has is her naturally playful approach, it’s a great antidote for stopping others from taking life or situations too seriously. Men love to be active, often have their eye on the goal and can get a bit tunnel-visioned. The woman’s natural resonance with the ‘game of life’ and the energy of “Lila” – the divine play of life in the Hindu tradition – lends perspective and helps us to realise that, no matter how big or important things seem, there is something much greater and more mysterious at work in the universe.&nbsp;Humour is a great tool for diffusing difficult situations and challenging the ego. It can highlight for us when our ego is out of control better than almost anything; the ego hates to feel ‘laughed at’ or ‘not taken seriously’.&nbsp;In fact, our ability to not take ourselves too seriously is a great gift in relationships, and allows us to always see things from the other’s perspective. When used with awareness, it can take us outside of ourselves, simulating the meditative state of ‘witness consciousness’ and allowing us to view the situation with more detachment. This can also help us gain perspective on our character defects or behaviour patterns we need to work on; leading to faster self-transformation.Intelligence and StimulationA conscious man will always be attracted to a woman who can stimulate his mind. Indeed, it is said that the mind is the largest human erogenous zone.&nbsp;It is inauthentic to downplay your intelligence or opinions. Don’t be shy to share about things that interest you. Regardless of how you did at school, as aware adults we have the resources available to us to educate ourselves, through our own methods, about whatever interests us.If your opinions are rigid and dogmatic, and you do not allow yourself to also be challenged or stimulated by your beloved’s mind, this will lead to disconnection. Authentic men want connection and depth on all levels; a beloved who is interested in improving things, understanding the world around her, and has a richness of experience which she shares in an open and stimulating way.&nbsp;Women are usually more connected to the inner intelligence of the heart and soul; their intuition. Listen to your sense and don’t hold back from sharing these intuitions, even if they cannot be backed by concrete ‘facts’. This feminine wisdom is superior to logic, in that it often defies it. Exemplify for your man the openness and mental flexibility needed to trust this; in doing so you’ll also be challenging the disbelief and stigma around this type of intelligence.&nbsp;Warmth and AffectionIf you want to engage his heart and gain access to his emotional depths, you need to be a shining beacon of love and affection yourself. A woman who radiates warmth from her heart, who is loving, compassionate and caring, who makes small loving gestures, for no apparent reason, will always attract conscious people into her life. What we give, we receive. A woman who selflessly gives love and joy, through her presence and acts of kindness, will only attract more of this energy.A well-adjusted man is not attracted to an ‘ice queen’, or a suffocating mother type. Those who are attracted to these types often have harmful patterns and unhealthy attachment bonds, formed in childhood, or through suffering in early relationships.&nbsp;Part of the feminine mystery is the woman's magical charm and innate capacity to nurture and care about all that is in Creation. It is her resonance with the Divine Mother, the goddess, that leads a man towards his own true essence.This is one of the greatest strengths of a woman; how she leads and guides by example, with love, compassion and selflessness. This type of love does not indulge any neediness, neither is it cold and aloof, nor rejecting the man’s emotions. In its very essence this elevated and inspiring way of loving guides a man closer to his own heart and encourages him to always act with integrity; inspired by her example.Embracing of FemininityIf you want to attract a man who has stepped fully into his masculine power, you have to step into the fullness of your feminine power.Fundamentally, a woman who embraces her femininity, or, as is spoken about in Tantric wisdom, has fully awoken the power of Shakti, has already mastered all the aspects previously explored in this article.&nbsp;She is a full, harmonious, sensual and enchanting manifestation of these energies. This creates an irresistible force of attraction for a conscious man.There is a lot of confusion, rejection and denigration of the feminine energies in modern society and this has led to a lot of women refusing to embrace the fullness of their feminine powers.&nbsp;They would rather deny these, or reject them as being ‘below them’ or ‘unsafe’; instead cultivating masculine qualities which make it easier for them to feel powerful and accepted in a global culture that is dominated by negative masculine qualities.&nbsp;The woman who embraces her femininity is strong and confident in her feminine energies; she does not use them to manipulate or control others, neither is she afraid or ashamed of them; hiding them away where no one can see them.&nbsp;She is sexy, she is powerful, she is sensual, she is bold, she is confident. She is what every conscious man wants, because a relationship with her promises fulfilment of the body, mind and soul, and the gifts to awaken both partners to their full potential.Such a woman will always be met with admiration, adoration and an overwhelming love.As a wise man once said, “If you want to find your King, then you need to first become the Queen whom he will find completely irresistible.”Your femininity is a gift, an inspiration and a miracle; not just to you but to everyone around you; it is our superpower.&nbsp;For more Information on feminine qualities in relationships visit www.voxamoris.ro

Conscious Qualities to Supercharge your Feminine Charm 

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Sexuality is an area of a great interest for everybody. Many people would attest that orgasm is the singular happiest and most wonderful state of being in the human experience. Yet usually we hear people speaking only about the singular orgasm, localised at the genital level, which is often experienced as&nbsp;short and unfulfilling.&nbsp;Your being is capable of so much more! Full-body orgasm is a beatific experience of pleasure without limits that can be maintained for more or less time, depending on the erotic and sensual awakening of each woman.Full-body orgasms are so intense that you can’t even tell when one is over and the next is starting. The waves of pleasure that you experience come one after another with increasing intensity.&nbsp;After studying orgasm for 22 years, Hartman and Fithian concluded that men and women can have localised orgasms but also expanded and continuous orgasms which can be felt in the entire body.Fully enjoy your erotic energyIn the energy orgasm we can feel, even without direct erotic stimulation, a wave of intense, erotic energy at a point of origin (this could be a chakra, or the base of the spine) that then travels up and ‘through’ the rest of the body.&nbsp;It’s immediately followed by another orgasm which can be even more intense or more profound than the previous. In this case the orgasmic state includes every cell of the body and lasts for a longer period of time.&nbsp;If you amplify and fully enjoy your erotic energy by practicing erotic continence (the perfect control over the erotic energy), you have every chance of experiencing the full-body energy orgasm.Women on top in erotic pleasureWhen it comes to orgasm the most important thing is to relax and take it slowly. Enjoy every sensation, every moment of pleasure and delight. You deserve all the pleasure in the world because you deserve to be happy.&nbsp;&nbsp;Maybe you were told as a child that sexual pleasure was wrong or shameful. Remember all those moments and ideas that you still have inside your mind, and which stop&nbsp;you from freely manifesting your sexuality.&nbsp;Aim to become aware of all of these&nbsp;prejudices, inhibitions and sexual blockages that you have accepted without realising, because at the time you didn’t know how to avoid them. Aim to gently let go of all of them as they are blocking and limiting you from fully manifesting yourself on a erotic level.&nbsp;Furthermore, as many of these blockages are held at a subconscious level and passed down through unconscious parenting (or even subtly and non-verbally) from generation to generation, by releasing yourself from these repressive chains you will also be releasing your daughters.After you have convinced yourself and felt with your whole being that you fully deserve to be happy, make sure you have enough time to make love in a leisurely way. Forget about your problems, forget about the world and stay in intimacy with your lover in the delicious space of your love.Women need time to reach orgasm; in the Tantric tradition foreplay should last for at least 45 minutes, with almost all of this time focused on the woman’s pleasure.&nbsp;In order to reach the total energy orgasm you need to connect yourself to love. Only by loving you can expand to infinity. If it is only carnal sex then it’s possible to experience only localised sensations at the genital level. To go from sex to erotic ecstasy you need to jump on the trampoline of unconditional love.Now that you’ve opened your heart, the time has come to learn how to expand the pleasure in to your entire body. Help yourself by breathing. While you make love, start to breathe consciously. With every breath see yourself expand more and more. You expand and embrace more and more in your consciousness until you embrace the whole body and then your beloved.If you continue in this way you can have exceptional extrasensory experiences because you can include in your awareness even planets and universes. The pleasure that you feel is refined, bright and discrete. This intensity can be higher or lower depending on your vital energy and your capacity of awakening the profound eroticism of your being.Erotic ecstasy is accessiblePeople say that there are no frigid women. This is a great truth. Every healthy woman can reach the peaks of her own eroticism. If she chooses to experience more than just sex and heads to a sacred erotic dimension, if she relaxes and connects herself to the feminine universal energies she can obtain great orgasmic heights and sacred erotic ecstasy.Relax. Enjoy love. Celebrate your femininity and give up your fears and inhibitions. Love and do what you want! You will feel that the orgasms that you start to experience become a river full of energy that invades the universe. It’s the energy of life that you feel in every cell. The blessing of the divine presence reveals itself to you now as being HERE and NOW permanently quiet and mysterious.From sex to superconsciousness. This road of sacred eros will lead you to the land of infinite possibilities.

The full-body orgasm

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Tantra describes lovemaking as the path of privileged evolution. Love making which is full of love and tenderness fills and nourishes our soul; it can become an opportunity for self-discovery and transformation. Through lovemaking we can fix the relationship with ourselves, we can “recreate and renovate our being”. Often, however, due to the accelerated pace of life we just forget to stop, relax, take a break and look within ourselves to find out why we make love and what makes us happy indeed.We suggest the following&nbsp;7 reasons to make love and to achieve sexual continence (the perfect control over the sexual energy). Taking into account these recommendations and applying them, you will discover the unexpected flavour of love and life. These reasons can also help you to intensify the intimacy within the couple and relive the magical state of being in love.1. Through tantric lovemaking we can achieve a state of perfect healthNumerous researches and studies have demonstrated the beneficial impact of lovemaking on physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. By making love with continence we can obtain a perfect health felt in all organ systems: naturally regenerates blood, develops respiratory muscles, purify lymphatic system, facilitates digestion, strengthens the immune system, strengthens muscles, improves sleep, deeply balances thyroid, harmoniously stimulates adrenals, moisturizes the skin, regulates the menstrual cycle. Lovemaking with continence is the best method of contraception as it is perfectly natural. In other words, making love with love and continence several times per week, maintains our body, mind and soul in a good condition.2 . What can be more beautiful and charming than fully feeling the life energy?We can feel this energy full of effervescence and dynamism especially when we are at peace with ourselves, happy and in love. Making love with sexual continence is the most simple and effective way to fully feel, awaken and amplify the energy of life in our being. Thus, every idea we can think, every step we take, every word we utter becomes impregnated with life, joy and pleasure, and this makes us very attractive, bright and charismatic.3. Generates a state of inner fulfillment and stabilityWith rare exceptions, most often we know just some facts about our beloved. In order to be able to help each other the two lovers need to have confidence in each other. Lovemaking with sexual continence is a mysterious empathic mirroring. If we are attentive enough to what our lover communicates to us, we will gradually succeed to make a clearer and fuller image about our beloved. As a result of this fact a very deep sense of fulfillment and inner stability will appear.4. Brings a magic breath into our livesAn intimate meeting with our lover is a space for creativity and it can bring a magic breath into our lives. Being detached of complicated mind activities in which we are often caught, being open, playful, spontaneous, abandoned in the stream of exaltation and happiness of each other we can live magical states of love. Managing to abandon ourselves during lovemaking with sexual continence being full of curiosity and inspiration we will always have new and fulfilling deep experiences, which looks like we enter a new and fascinating world. This “new” world will be full of synchronicities that will always remind us about the miracle of love.5. Discover and experience joy and happinessBy making love with sexual continence we can discover and experience a huge joy and happiness, which are opposite to the feeling of uncertainty and despair. Intense and lasting joy is a deserved reward of lovemaking plays full of love, commitment and sexual continence. The intense happiness is a state that shows the achievement of a condition of balance and emotional fulfillment. The states of joy and happiness are “attracted” in our being when we make love with tenderness, delicacy, purity, and understanding. An important aspect is the wise use of all our inner resources that are at our disposal.6. Gain the authentic inner freedomThe authentic inner freedom can be described in various ways, but the value of this personal treasure is recognized, understood and appreciated only by those who actually live it. The first step to true inner freedom is to identify and then sincerely express all the fears. Once we have discussed the fears that we have, we will be able to immediately feel a state of relief and courage, we will be able to feel that those fears have lost their chaining and painful power that they had on our being.Inner freedom is experienced in the absence of fears when the constant dialogue with our heart is kept and when we act according to our soul. Only our desire to let our fears go forever can deeply open our soul, which will inevitably attract love and happiness and freedom.The state of freedom felt by the two lovers while making love with sexual continence brings another precious “gift”, which is the discovery of inner space of our soul that will become more and more all-encompassing. The state of freedom amplifies the love that will make true miracles, so we will become masters of our own destiny that will be perfectly integrated into the harmony of the Whole.7. We can discover and live the sacred relationship and the reality&nbsp;of our own soul&nbsp;by being open and enthusiastic to discover all that is good and beautiful in our beloved.Due to a large and overwhelming love between the two lovers, the lovemaking becomes a deep prayer. Thus, we realise that the relationship becomes a jewel of our life that uplifts us. We experience the so-called Unity and we achieve the ideal of love through devotion and commitment to each other. We have the feeling that God holds us in His Arms.Photo credit to Ines Honfi&nbsp;&nbsp;

Tantric love making – an opportunity for self discovery and transformation

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The love between a man and a woman reflects a universal secret: the endless attraction and fusion of two opposite principles, the supreme masculinity and feminine mystery, YANG and YIN, plus and minus, solar and lunar. When you start seeing things this way, you rise&nbsp;to a new dimension. Human love loses its boundaries and through the infinite expansion it is totally dissolved in a superhuman love.From the moment you start perceiving this infinite mysterious reality, the love grows wings, and moment after moment, you learn to want more and more, to want everything in a matter of love.This path of love is not always easyTo detach&nbsp;from the limitations of a possessive mind which is full of desires and attachments, to understand the world through the eyes of a wise woman and not through the eyes of a woman full of fears, worries and doubts, this is obviously the dawn of a glorious life.Sometimes we are angry with our beloved for various reasons, being unhappy with some small imperfections, which do not conform to our wishes and expectations. I say that to point out the fact that anger, disappointment and discontentment occur only when you imagine something, when you expect something, when all that is happening in our life does not adhere to our expectations. It is possible that the way we imagine things are indeed the best way, however we can never know if it is a hundred percent truth. Why not take instead the good and harmonious from the given situation, even if this situation has deceived our expectations. And why not learn to live the moment exactly as it is, with all its surprises, without trying to influence how and what it is going to be.Enjoy the magic of the present momentDefinitely for a woman it is not as easy as it looks. Her imagination, which is not always creative, often serves as a motivation in her life too. But we must keep in mind all the time that external conditions are neutral – only our reactions regarding these conditions make them look good or bad. It is very necessary and important to transform our reactions in regards to the outer circumstances.Be always happy insideDo not try to change the outside in order to adapt it to your requirements; it’s better to strive for an inner transformation. Enjoy the magic of the present moment; look always for the magic that exists.Instead of wishing that things go in a certain way and resisting to the natural flow of things, it is better to accept the facts as they are. Learn to live the present moment with all it has to offer. To deeply plunge into and totally unify yourself with the present moment and with the action you do, to be extremely focused and attentive to every moment you live. This is to experience and consider life as a real celebration.By enjoying every moment and being grateful for the love within your soul, life becomes miraculous. A wise man said “when love is endless, the impossible shall be easily possible.” This is because the love untainted by the mind and the ego allows connection to the universe. Thanks to this connection to the “universal network” synchronicities appear and wishes come true. When you love you become a magnet that attracts anything you want from universe, because love is the miracle that you can live each day.

Love – the miracle of every day

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Enjoy your orgasms fullyDid you know, that according to statistics, lovemaking usually lasts for 3 to 15 minutes? Sexologists prove that a woman needs at least 15 minutes in order to reach orgasm. And we still wonder why there are so many unhappy women in the world?!The other day I was talking to a friend. He was wondering why his wife wasn’t pleased with anything anymore – why everything always turned into a reason for a fight. It seemed that nothing he did was good. Does it sound familiar? Do you have days when nothing and nobody pleases you?Who would think that the most frequent cause of this bewildering behaviour in a woman is her frustration – her inability to reach orgasm?Many women don’t know why sometimes something seems to be still missing after lovemaking, even if it was&nbsp;nice and pleasant. Instead of being happy and extremely cheerful, shortly after making love they have an argument with their lover or their boss and they are not satisfied with anything.I will give the same piece of advice I gave my friend – pay more attention to your love life, and invest more time in it. Allow time for love with your husband or lover. In love, the sexual energy is a primordial one. If that energy is not respected, it causes problems. On the contrary, if we do respect it and take care of it, that energy offers us huge and wonderful gifts. An orgasm is the cherry on top, the gift that a woman who loves and is loved receives joyfully.Even if it is a transitory spark that lasts for a few seconds or, in some special cases, a few minutes, an orgasm offers the woman a state of overwhelming happiness that can last for days on end.The orgasm has been compared to a small death; a death of the limited individuality, of the mind and of all kinds of constraints. The orgasm offers liberation, freedom and a feeling of flying.The orgasm can be defined as a euphoric dilation into infinity, a spark of a transcendent aspect spontaneously and effortlessly perceived, a state of total abandonment in love, overwhelming pleasure, the return to the divine source within.And yet, why don’t women give themselves the right to have an orgasm? Is it because they don’t know about it, because they are not preoccupied with it or because they can’t?What do you think the world would look like if all women had at least an orgasm a day? We certainly wouldn’t see sad faces in the street anymore! The sun would be brighter and people would be happier. It is not a utopia. It is something very possible in a world where every woman and every man would understand that orgasm is necessary.Osho, a well-known Tantric master, said, “From the viewpoint of biological reproduction, orgasm is not a necessity. But from the viewpoint of spiritual growth, it is a necessity.” Yes, orgasm is necessary for people to be better, for happiness to prevail and to become a common lifestyle.Take the first step towards your happinessThe road is complex and a small start can help.<ol><li>Start by really accepting and knowing yourself</li><li>Learn to be the source of happiness for those who love you</li><li>Learn to increase the love within you and to enjoy the other person’s happiness</li><li>Contaminate the others with your joy of life</li><li>Discover everything that is necessary for you to experience pleasure more intensely when you make love to your lover. He, in turn, will be much happier</li><li>Abandon yourself in love; give up on your fears and other obstacles</li><li>When you make love, give up on any mental discourse and enjoy yourself, enjoy your lover, enjoy love</li><li>Allow yourself to fully enjoy all the sensations and pleasures of lovemaking. Focus only on love and on the pleasure of feeling the other person. Multiple orgasms can’t wait to make you super-happy! That can be just the beginning. The rest comes by itself – or you can find out about it from us :)</li></ol>To find out more about these subjects, join us in one of our courses or the <a href="https://www.venuswomen.com/our-courses/womens-circle" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">women’s circle</a> that runs every two weeks.

 Fully enjoy your orgasms!

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United in personal responsibility&nbsp;The immature romantic myth of our society causes many couples to place the entirety of their happiness on another’s shoulders. We are conditioned from a young age to believe that achieving certain ‘life milestones’ is what will bring us happiness and satisfaction. The fairytale relationship is one of these.&nbsp;There is the assumption that, once we have achieved this, our ‘other half’ will sweep us off our feet and make our life complete and permanently happy. And if he/she doesn’t, it is because something is wrong with him, not us. This illusion does not feed love, but separation.‘My other half makes me feel this’ ‘I would be happy if he only changed that’ ‘She’s making my life miserable’. This is a huge responsibility to place on another human being, and the cycle of blame in the couple relationship only makes us more and more unhappy as we give away more and more of our power to a dynamic that will never really work.&nbsp;Inner FULLfilmentWhen we take personal responsibility for our feelings, experiences and wellbeing we no longer give someone else a job that we should be doing ourselves (a job they usually didn’t ask for!) This is highly empowering; we come to a deeper knowledge of the needs of our souls and how to meet these.&nbsp;We become more secure and fulfilled as we grow to understand that everything we need is already within us. This is not arrogant self-sufficiency, but a deep understanding of our true, divine nature. We are the microcosm and everything that exists in the macrocosm is reflected, to a greater or lesser extent, within us.&nbsp;When we know we are innately complete, the desperate need to source and secure everything (especially happiness) from outside fades. We are already happy, or at least more aware of where the energy of happiness originates from, and so are able to enjoy our lover’s presence, without expectation that he give us something he cannot.&nbsp;Yes, he can and should increase our happiness through the joy of love and of his self-offering to the relationship. But, only we are responsible for how we feel and act within that relationship.&nbsp;As more space and understanding is created within us and within the relationship, the fear of losing him reduces, as does fear of suffering; as we know we are innately ok inside; always were, and always will be. Outside circumstance becomes less important, which in turn gives happiness more space to establish itself; as true happiness is not dependent on the exterior; it is indeed an ‘inside job’.&nbsp;There is an immense freedom for both parties in knowing that nobody can really hurt you; you have the ultimate responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, feelings and intentions.Love is a gift not a demandYou have the power of loving the other one without asking for something in return, without complaining, without doubting. When we can detach from wanting (or worse needing) something in return, we align ourselves with the law of Occult Offering.By simply admiring your lover’s existing qualities, and being grateful for supporting him in his personal development, you will be acting as a genuine support for him. One that will allow him to flourish independently. Whereas, when we are constantly putting heavy expectation on the other of change, we do not accept and love them as they are.&nbsp;We are projecting a fantasy onto them, and becoming annoyed when they don’t fulfil it. Accepting them, seeing them in their highest possible light, and supporting them to achieve their goals is a much more effective approach. It is one that will also make you much happier - as all of the aforementioned behaviours are positive and therefore attract more positivity and happiness into your experiencing of life.Free from relentless expectation, you become genuinely appreciative, and receive his love as a gift, not as a vital help. Free from expectation, you do not need him to change or to act in a particular way to make you happy; this gives you both freedom and space to transform sustainably and out of love.Your lover is not here to fill a gap in your soul, but to offer you both joy. Choose to attract happiness, thus your road to true love will be open; because everything starts from within us.Get in contact with your inner powerWhen a woman&nbsp;doesn’t love herself, she expects love and validation to come from the outside and is insistently, whether directly or indirectly, seeking approval from others in order to feel worthy and loved. She usually wants concrete proofs of love; she keeps a close eye on his words and his gestures, needs regular reassurances and confirmations.&nbsp;Sometimes she is so afraid of losing the loved being, that she worries at the smallest appearance of affective withdrawal.&nbsp;Becoming jealous and petty, she interprets his phrases and attitudes as being a slight to her, or as revealing an underlying preference for someone else.&nbsp;She sometimes gains a perverse delight in keeping a running list of actions, words or gestures which are proof of lack of affection. Plagued by a legacy of pain and self-hatred, she becomes hyper-sensitive and can veer suddenly from joy to suspicion, from adoration to pessimism.Love based on these types of behaviours and dependencies is almost guaranteed to make both unhappy. And eventually, the list of perceived wrongdoings and reactive incidents leads to a relationship end.The challenges within a couple are not about the other; they are products of that couples’ specific dynamic; events that generate an encounter with our own selves. Either we resist it, falling again and again into the trap of blame, or we accept the confrontation with our own limits and choose to awaken our own inner force of awareness and connect to the peace within.When an issue comes up, don’t think only about what the other did ‘wrong’, but look at what it brought up in you.&nbsp;Ask yourself these questions:How did it make you feel, and why?&nbsp;Journaling is a good tool for this; reflect o the incident, write lucidly and calmly what actually happened (not your interpretation of it) and write immediately how it made you feel in that moment.&nbsp;What did it trigger from your childhood or previous relationships, and how can you work to heal this, instead of projecting all responsibility for this accumulated hurt onto you lover?As we experience more and more suffering, and go through more and more failed relationships, we tend to project pain from similar incidents in the past onto things that are happening right now. This is not fair. Try to distinguish when you had a similar argument/experience/trauma before. Practice <a href="https://www.venuswomen.com/articles/the-importance-of-forgivenes" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">forgiving</a> that person and yourself, and you will work towards releasing past pain, which will make you more objective in your current relationship.What negative tendencies in you did this incident bring to light? How can you work to improve or eliminate these?How can you approach conflict in a way that it can be used as a tool for transformation, maturation of the couple dynamic, and in a way that leads more directly to understanding, harmony and love?&nbsp;<figure class="table"><table><tbody><tr><td>Non violent communication is a very useful tool for opening this kind of dialogue, as well as for general self-awareness. Its basic structure is this; 1. What happened? (concrete action/words/event only; Not your interpretation.) 2. How did it make you feel? 3. This feeling reveals an unmet need in you; what is it? So, or example, if you felt unheard, you have a need to be heard. 4. Proposal of a concrete action to improve the situation; for example date night once a week, or catch up on our feelings every other day at 9pm. Ask your beloved; would you be willing to do this? If they are not, don’t judge, but aim to come to a concrete, alternative agreement.&nbsp;</td></tr></tbody></table></figure>Open a dialogue with your beloved; honesty and vulnerability are two of our greatest tools for achieving and deepening intimacy in a couple relationship.Cherish the great privilege of your loveLove your own soul and you will not always crave love supplements. Trust yourself completely and you will no longer feel the need to seek confirmation, affirmation or reassurance. Discover your qualities and flaws and you will not have the wish&nbsp;to conquer others in order to prove to yourself that you really exist.To love yourself has nothing to do with egoism or ego. These are only signs of a lack of communication with your profound self. Love for your self brings with it kindness, nobility, inner satisfaction, optimism and emotional maturity.True love naturally respects the other person’s freedom. Many times we think we have rights over the other person, because we love him and therefore he has obligations towards us. We, in fact, do not have any right over him. And he does not have any obligation towards us. Love does not demand property rights. It is a spontaneous self-giving.It is commonly understood that life in a couple gives one a privileged statute that gives the access to the other person’s intimate space. This is a given privilege, not an owed right. It is a privilege that you can receive in dignity; a gift that only love makes you worthy of, each and every day.&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Photo credit to Ines Honfi

Do you wish for a happy and loving couple relationship?

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Release blockages and vulnerabilitiesExpress yourself! Set your emotions, feelings and states of orgasm free. Don’t be afraid to abandon yourself. There are blazing desires, longings, nostalgias enclosed within, awaiting to be released. This is not only about orgasm, but about deepening your emotional, affective and spiritual experiences.In its essence, sexuality is a form of personal expression. For this reason, some of the ancient texts which refer to it elaborate upon this subject as a form of art. Yet, to approach sexuality in this way, it is necessary that the erotic energy is not repressed and can circulate freely through the body.Psycho-emotional blockages, shame, guilt and other conditioning prevent these energies from fully and harmoniously expressing themselves. You cannot taste the delights of a healthy and expansive sexuality if you still have judgements, inhibitions or shame.De-Conditioning from shameShame is a societal attitude that has been imposed upon both men and women as a means of behaviour control. In the case of women, this is usually sexual shame, imposed in an effort to control their sexual energy; traditionally perceived in society, and portrayed by the media, as magical, overwhelming and even dangerous.As a child, you were probably conditioned to have shame around your body, or certainly your genitalia, from when you began to socialise or attend school. Then guilt is often installed by parents, peers or the media around masturbation and early erotic experiences. This means that many women grow up with the ‘virgin/whore’ dichotomy (the belief that women fall into either the virginal/wife category or that of the wild whore) heavily internalised. Guilt (around their own sexual behaviours) and judgement (around others’) are commonplace from adolescence on.&nbsp;When we make the fundamental realisation that we need to unlearn everything we were taught about what sex is, we realise that the erotic energy is not something dirty, shameful or dangerous that needs to be repressed or contained. It is the most colossal and powerful creative energy in the world, and is a divine, sublime gift. Particularly for women.The G Spot StorehouseIn the case of women, an important part of their potential to express in an erotic way is located in the G spot. Once awakened and activated, the G spot opens the gates for accessing the profound aspects of erotic expression and intimacy.Sometimes the G spot is numb, painful or otherwise blocked because of painful memories or unpleasant events from the past. Research in the field of Sexology demonstrated that some traumas can even be reactivated through experiencing a powerful G spot orgasm.&nbsp;It seems that a lot of subconscious information related to a woman’s sexuality is stored here. Once it comes to the surface of the consciousness, these traumas can be more easily resolved.Despite the fact that many women would like to have an erotically open relationship that is based on trust, in some cases these women feel terribly vulnerable; which can result in the men becoming distant or even cause them to reject a men who would like to be closer to them.&nbsp;Traumatic incidents from the past can be relived through a gesture, a sensation, an image or a word. As the blockage is stored in the subconscious (as well as the physical body) it takes over rapidly, often without the woman even realising it or becoming fully aware of the process in her conscious mind.For instance, Marina, 35, experienced childhood trauma when she was nearly raped by a neighbour at 12 years old. She now relives any direct sexual approach as a potential threat, even if she agrees to be touched and caressed and feels pleasure and excitement in the presence of her lover.&nbsp;She rejects penetration, even if she would like their amorous games to be complete. Though their relationship offers a certain fulfilment and happiness, even without penetration, both of them would like to complete the picture of their erotic life.In 1940, Wilhelm Reich, sexologist, psychologist and disciple of Freud, introduced a theory according to which there are circuits in the human body through which the energy “circulates” freely.Trauma ShieldingThis energy can be blocked because of some pains and traumas of an affective nature. Emotional traumas are stored as memories on the physical level, in muscles and organs, provoking tension, pain or blockages in certain areas. This inhibits the free circulation of energy; including erotic and orgasmic energy. Reich named the creation of these muscular blockages the “shield of protection of the organism”.Where would you expect scars of an emotional origin, the products of abuse or sexual trauma, to appear? The heart and chest is one area that can be heavily armoured. Yet the G spot, PC muscles, and the whole vaginal zone is the most common storehouse for sexual-emotional trauma that has occurred. The creation of the shield explains why some parts of the G spot are painful to touch.&nbsp;How many women have, at some point, experienced being penetrated too early; before they were physically and emotionally fully open and ready to accept another being into their body?&nbsp;If penetration is accepted, without being truly, consciously and fully desired, it can provoke serious confusion – because it presupposes a deep insincerity, both in terms of your body-mind realtionship, and your relationship with the masculine. This attitude can produce lesions at the level of the G spot, manifesting through the existence of some numb, painful or tensed areas.The body is the patientThe treatment of traumatic experiences is a relatively new domain of psychotherapy, and one in constant expansion. In the present moment, there are countless publications which treat the effects produced by suffering and affective traumas on the behavioural and the mental level.However, due to the mind-body disconnect prevalent in modern medicine and psychology, only a few of these include therapeutic methods. Psychotherapy can help bring our awareness to trauma at a mental and emotional level. Yet holistic healing and re-calibration only occurs if the effects of the traumatic experiences are treated physically; where the tension or pain is stored; the site of the original physical trauma.Massage is the Ace up the sleeve of the Tantric toolkit for healing sexual-emotional trauma. Especially in the case of sexual traumas, G spot massage is an accessible and beneficial method for sustaining the process of emotional healing.&nbsp;Easy to learn, with benefits that increase over time, through this practice the two lovers can approach their sexual problems consciously. Thus helping each other to relax, get in touch with the body and what it’s telling us, become aware of ,and release, old traumas.Releasing tension from the G spot and healing its emotional and sexual scars is possible only if we understand the capacity of the G spot to re-open towards pleasure and exchange of energies.&nbsp;We need to become aware, through theory and experience, of the capacities of this miraculous spot for pleasure, orgasm and emotional release. The phenomena of ‘squirting’ or female ejaculation, is beneficial in releasing trauma and giving the woman extended, freeing states of relaxed orgasm. Becoming aware and open in how we relate to our G spot as women also determines other transformations in our attitudes and self-acceptance.Sexual problems are solvable!If lovemaking is approached with patience and lots of love, then we have every chance of solving sexual problems. The first step in solving any sexual difficulty is acceptance. We are human and we all have different experiences which can and can have a lasting impact on our sexuality.&nbsp;In other words, it is normal that a couple confront, at a certain point in time, a certain sexual problem. If the attitude of the two is adequate (firstly, based on tenderness and love), and they are each willing to put in the work to communicate and heal, then it can be surmounted with success.If you feel a tension or a blockage, however small, it is good to talk about it with your lover. Explain them what would help you in opening more towards him. Tell him, honestly, what you enjoy and what triggers you.&nbsp;In this way, you will succeed in asking your lover to wait until you feel truly excited. You will ask him not to hurry, you’ll help him to better understand you and what works for you, this will enable you to taste together the sensuality and delicious emotions of your amorous fusion.&nbsp;You will feel the modifications which will result on the vaginal level; a relaxation, opening, restoring and increasing of sensation, greater arousal and better orgasm! And in this way, you create the premise to feel a more intense mutual desire as well as to deepen your couple relationship, more and more.Photo credit to Ines Honfi

Healing and emotional release through orgasm

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The Paradox of LackWe all want to have success. Success in love, in our career, in evolution, in life. According to the principle of resonance, which is actively and continuously present in the Universe, you want success, because you already know what it feels like, you just think you want it because you lack it.The good news is that when something seems missing, it is just hiding. The Universe is abundantly full. Lack does not exist in the Universe. The idea of lack is just an illusion that we often perceive as reality.As women we think we have many needs. We need a man or a career; we need money for something, anything, to feel happy. Women, more than men, experience this illusion of need, because women often think that they need something external in order to be fulfilled.&nbsp;Need brings the idea of a lack, of something missing or that does not exist. At a fundamental level, lack is non-existent in the Universe and neither is need. We live in a world constantly full, complete, and whole. The need is just a fictional representation of our mind, which perceives reality through a filter that it applies.Do we really need something to be happy? NO. Happiness is not a result of certain arbitrary conditions being met; it is always present in the Universe, because absolute bliss is the natural state of all creation.The Universe does not require any specific results because the Universe itself is a result. God, or the Universal Creative Force, does not need anything. It does not seek results. This Godly Force is present in us, and when we feel connected to Him or in communion with Him every need disappears, because then we connect to All, we have All, we become All.If, however, you are dealing with the feeling and idea of lack and seek to fulfil your needs, you should know that you will only find constant fulfilment inside you, not outside. What you seek is much, much closer to you than you think. The point of resonance is inside: you’re the one who attracts or rejects the success.What is Success anyway?Many of us are accustomed to think that once you have accomplished enough, accumulated enough, got enough recognition – success will be served on a plate. Unfortunately, most consider that it is never enough. The fact that the real success is not somewhere out in the world but only in us can be shocking to some, however it’s realisation brings some illuminating moments.Let’s do an experiment: take a pen and a piece of paper: “Define Success”.&nbsp;If the answer includes concepts such as: accomplishments, possessions, career, relationships – then success is a treasure, yes, but is located somewhere else. And it’s like climbing a high ladder to find out at the top that we have supported it on the wrong wall.&nbsp;There are many people who have already achieved material success and yet have chosen the path of drugs or have ended their own lives even. Why? Because the material achievements do not bring in reality that fulfilment you expect. Authentic fulfilment appears in the soul and is more complex because it is actually a success of our own being, which discovers itself, and begins to have access to the Universal secrets.So, what to do? It’s time to change our vision, to redefine success, to understand that fulfilment is an inner state that is necessary to learn to recognise inside our self.Thus, the pathway to success is a journey without distance inside us. All you have to do is to remove the illusions that cover, in a very sophisticated package, our natural ability to succeed. Success always comes from within; nobody can give it to us. We can acquire any state or thing by strongly thinking and believing it.Let good things happenThis inner attitude can be learnt. Enjoy the glass half full attitude, the confident and optimistic vision. Let us change the way we perceive our own life. Let us not focus on the problems and obstacles all the time; let us trust the present moment and the future that awaits us.Let us learn to see the world as an opportunity, necessity and synchronicity. Let good things happen whilst remaining in a state of relaxation, detachment and gratefulness. The key is resonance: if we are looking for reasons to be successful, we will find them, if we are looking for reasons not to be successful, you will find them too. The Universe always answers the vibration frequency we emit with the same vibration. So happiness and success always lie in our hands.Rediscover the child within. The one who was always self-confident and optimistic. A known contemporary writer says: “I have looked for a long time for a skeptical baby, but could not find one.” Children have a pure, honest state of deep intuition and connection to the Universal Truths; a more direct access to reality more than we can imagine, even they do not realise or understand it.Give up on fakery‘Doing’ and ‘having’ constantly do not signify success. Nor do likes on Facebook, job titles, your parent’s approval, or any other outside accolade. Many people are always unhappy and ungrateful, even if they have more material things or power than others have ever dreamed of. These people can be easily recognised. They are constantly busy and looking for “more”.For others, success is relative; its value is found when compared to others. They are the ones who are convinced that there will never be enough; and that if another has, it means that I am a ‘have not'. Guided by the gain / loss mental set up and always seeming to be in competition, they are rarely seen happy and serene, and struggle to build genuine relationships that are lasting and based on love.If you recognise yourself in one of these profiles, give up resentment and the illusion of appearances; choose to say “thank you” for what you have and what you are. And to detach yourself, also saying ‘thank you’ even for what you have lost, and the learning this has brought you. This is the attitude, which really brings success, happiness and inner freedom.

How to be always successful and happy

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Your life is in your handsAt the beginning of a new year it is good to look deeper into yourself and your life. Often in such moments the question appears: “What have I done with my life?” Stop for a minute and ask yourself this question. The answer is many times surprising. Observe it with detachment and prepare yourself for further decisions.Have the courage to sketch your destiny, to take your life in your own hands. It is important that regardless of where you are right now, to be able to take the right decisions now, in order that the present, from tomorrow, is what you wish it to be, according to the deepest aspirations of your soul.Value your lifeI invite you to carefully and patiently go through the following list of values. You can add other ones that you consider important. Choose the first five that you consider the most important ones for you in this moment.Realization, Gratefulness, Spirituality, Adaptability, Adventure, Mastery, Authenticity, Beauty, Admiration, Transfiguration, Determination, Self expression, Sensuality, Happiness, Introspection, Originality, Appreciation, Sharing, Altruism, Affiliation, Independence, Transformation, Knowledge, Control, Stability, Success, Solitude, Empathy, Creativity, Excellency, Emotion, Family, Liberty, Friendship, Joy, Honesty, Humour, Interdependence, Intimacy, Respect, Serenity, Tenacity, Love, Decision, Courage, Order, Participation, Peace, Health, Strength, Authority, Communication, Community, Security, Integration, CuriosityThe result is an overview of how you value your life in this moment. The recognition of these values brings you closer to your soul. This game is only a step on the path of self-knowledge. Then, in the following period aim to make the effort to maintain your attention upon these values, because in this way you live consciously your own life and you do not let yourself be dragged around randomly. For example, if gratefulness tops your list, then do not allow yourself to complain that things go wrong in your life. Find the value in each event from your life and manifest gratefulness for it. In this way you respect your own values and you respect yourself and your own life.To live life in this way implies to remain faithful to your soul and your life principles. You will notice in time that a great satisfaction appears, a feeling of inner contentment, and happiness.Continuous learning allows continuous transformationAspiration towards evolution is the prerogative of the human being. Do not be content with less. Do not accept mediocrity. Allow the desire to improve yourself, to learn again and again, more and more.If now you know exactly what you want and where you are, leave room for introspection so you will be able to continue with the next step. So practically, how do you do it? In the beginning become aware of your basic values. You analyze them. Are you there where you want to be? Or do you want something more? If yes, choose another five values and add them to your main list. Make them become active in your life, give them life, grant them the first place so you will notice how you grow. Continuous learning helps us always grow, ascend, evolve, be more and better.

Permission to be what you want to be

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Statistics say that an amorous act usually lasts for 3 to 15 minutes on average. Sexologists demonstrate that the woman needs a minimum of 15 minutes in order to reach an orgasm. Should we still ask ourselves why there are so many unhappy women?!The other day I was talking with a friend. He was asking why his wife doesn’t like anything anymore and why she argues about anything. It seemed as if anything he does, he is wrong. Does this sound familiar? Do you have days when nothing and nobody satisfies you anymore? Who would think that the main reason of this hard-to-understand feminine behavior is frustration or women’s incapacity to reach orgasm? A lot of women don’t know why sometimes, after they make love, although it was beautiful and pleasant, there is still something missing. Instead of being happy and joyful, shortly after making love they find themselves fighting with their lover, or their boss, or their neighbor and nothing seems right for them anymore.I give you the same advice that I gave to my friend: focus more on your love life. Give it more attention and more time. Together with your husband or lover, allow enough time for love making. In love, the sexual energy is one of the fundamental energies. If this energy is not respected, it creates problems. On the contrary, if we respect and cherish it, this energy offers us generous rewards. The orgasm is the most glorious moment, the reward that a loving and loved woman is receiving with immense delight.Although the orgasm is not permanent and it is just a glimpse that lasts for a few seconds or, in special cases, it could last for a few minutes, it offers the woman a state of overwhelming happiness that she can experience for days. The orgasm was called “the small death”; a death of the limited individuality, the mind and limitations of all kind. The orgasm offers liberation and freedom. The orgasm can be defined like a euphoric expansion towards the infinite, a spark of a transcendent reality perceived spontaneously and effortlessly, a state of complete surrendering into love, an overwhelming love, a return to the godly source within ourselves.Still, why do women not take the right to have orgasms? Is this due to ignorance, lack of preoccupation or lack of capability? How do you think a world in which all women would have at least one orgasm a day would look like? Surely we would not see any sad faces on the street. The sun would be brighter and the world happier. This is not impossible. It is not a utopia. It is possible in a world in which every man and woman would understand that the orgasm is something necessary. Osho, a famous tantric master said: “From the perspective of biological reproduction, the orgasm is not a necessity. But from the perspective of spiritual growth, it is a necessity.” Yes, the orgasm is required for people to be better, for happiness to prevail as a common way of life.What can you do? We offer you a few steps to open your path to happiness. The road is complex, but even a small beginning can help you.<ol><li>Start by knowing and accepting yourself</li><li>Learn to be the source of happiness for your loved ones</li><li>Learn to grow love within you and enjoy the other’s happiness</li><li>Enchant others with your joy of life</li><li>Discover everything that you need to experience more intense pleasure when you make love with your lover. And he will be happier as well.</li><li>Surrender to love, let go of fears and blockages</li><li>When you make love, let go to any type of mind speech and enjoy yourself, your lover and love itself</li><li>Allow yourself to enjoy at maximum all the sensations and pleasures of a love making experience. Focus only on the love and pleasure of feeling the other. The multiple orgasms are available for you to make you very happy!</li></ol>This can be only the beginning. The rest comes by itself… or you can learn it with us.If you want to learn more, but most of all if you want to apply the Secrets of the female orgasm, join us on the next event.

Orgasms are your reward of love!

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We cannot talk about a tantric woman without talking about a conscious, loving woman! This is by far the most outstanding quality of a tantric woman as she will always choose love and she will become, in this way, the embodiment of Love.&nbsp;In Tantra, the woman is considered to be the initiator; the one who holds the key to unlocking the mysterious, sublime secrets of lovemaking and the paradise that they unveil. This is because of her innate qualities that make it possible for her to easily practice sexual continence; the control and direction of the sexual energy in lovemaking.&nbsp;In this way, it becomes her role to initiate the man in this domain. If she allows the man, struggling to control his instinctual erotic energy, to take the lead, she will be the first and foremost that suffers both physically and emotionally because men are just not equipped for that role.This being said, we can understand that a tantric woman who is an initiator should have a very good control over her own energies (sexual, affective, mental) and a heart full of love to guide the man in her life not as a teacher, because this kills the passion and cuts off the man’s virility, but rather as an inspiration.&nbsp;A woman that is conscious of her own femininity and embraces it fully will have a mesmerising effect upon the man she loves and this will allow the man to follow her example, without him being manipulated in any way, because she is his muse, his inspiration, the embodiment of his ideals.Now, to remain an inspiration, the tantric woman should always transform, always grow and should continue doing so even, in fact especially, when she is n a long-term relationship.For this reason, it is very good if women can come together in spiritual groups for women where due to their structure, they can very easily assimilate qualities from each other, enriching their femininity and in this way, becoming a new woman every day. This will keep alive the flame of their relationship.Other important qualities of a tantric woman are goodness and tenderness which allow her to experience positive interactions both with her lover, but also with her family, colleagues etc. She maintains a soft heart, always bringing warmth and affection to the environment she is in.&nbsp;This has an immense power of transformation upon the loved ones in her life, because she is not only the initiator of her lover, but also of all people she is in touch with.&nbsp;Remember that the very first initiation a human being receives is at his birth through his mother. We all come in this world, regardless of being a man or woman, through a woman. And thus from ancient times, the woman is praised as the Great Mother of all beings.&nbsp;Women must become aware of this and assume their role as mothers and creators, even if they are not physical mothers. This will change their attitude towards themselves and others, building maturity and eliminating compromises.Another essential quality of a Shakti (as a fully awakened woman) is spontaneity. As this springs directly from an open heart. You cannot plan spontaneity and you cannot fake it. Spontaneous women behave in a natural way, expressing the truth of their heart in an exciting and charming way.Being spontaneous will offer the courage to follow the impulses of your intuition, even if these make you different from the others. In the long term, this will bring you success in everything you do because intuition is a high form of wisdom; one that is beyond the mind, and the heart always knows the right way. Spontaneity is also strongly connected with the inner freedom that is key to happiness.&nbsp;Another quality that deserves mentioning is a sense of humour. You can’t imagine how much daily relief this quality can bring us. It allows a harmonious relation with people around us, brings a positive impact in our surroundings, its extremely healthy and it uplifts our frequency of vibration.&nbsp;A good session of laughter can reinvigorate your spirit, it eliminates tensions and stress and will always make you the kind of company which everyone appreciates. In love relationships many arguments can be diffused with a bit of humour. Also, humour eliminates exaggerated self importance and ego-centrism, it connects hearts and increases self esteem.The control over her sexuality will supply a lot of subtle energy that will be experienced as an extraordinary charisma. When she walks into a room, she will be immediately noticed by others, even if they don’t know her.&nbsp;She will bring along with her presence a state of enchantment and radiating beauty. People might describe her as having a ‘je ne sais quoi', something mysterious that escapes the immediate perception of the senses.&nbsp; This is because of her resonance with the Eternal Feminine or MahaShakti as we call her in Tantra.&nbsp;The mystery that surrounds a tantric woman is an invitation to dive deeply into the unknown. It is also a challenge to go beyond the visible realms and discover that we are also spiritual beings, not only physical.&nbsp;The blessing that a tantric woman brings in her wake is that she offers a secret passage to the Absolute (the Divine), she is the path of the spiritual seeker and the essence of life itself.&nbsp;

The Tantric Woman

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Have you noticed that some women never lack admirers? Have you ever wondered why some women though dressed very sexy fail to attract men? You are amazed by how some women succeed to attract men’s attention when entering the room, regardless of how they are dressed – elegant, sexy, sport or a very simple outfit?<figure class="image"><img src="https://res.cloudinary.com/dvuq9n454/image/upload/v1588243289/kreemlh423gkmpbpludf.jpg"></figure>What does a man want from a woman? As you have already presumed, men want a woman who in their view is attractive, beautiful, sexy, exciting, funny and who can enchant by her presence. Men want a woman who can be respected and who is “fitting their soul”. They want a woman to be able to talk with about anything. But most of all they want a woman who has confidence in herself and who suggests by her entire being and behaviour: “I know who I am, and now you can discover me.” This is the secret that gives a particular charm to any woman and makes her irresistible.Is there a man who could resist such a woman? Even if a man will not be interested in her as his possible lover, he would like to know who she is, what she does, where she goes, what she likes. Why? Because when she enters the room, she catches all the attention. While she speaks, people around her turn to listen, and enjoy every word she speaks. Regardless of how she looks, you are helpless and fascinated by her presence. She disarms you with her charm and her inner beauty overwhelms you.How does she make the man feel? Not only does she make him feel truly a&nbsp;man, but she makes him feel happy for being a man and makes him feel the man who he always wanted to be. How does she succeed to make such miracles? This irresistible woman knows exactly what her boyfriend wants. She respects him and makes him feel appreciated. She loves him and she never misses the opportunity to tell him and show him her love.She appreciates her lover and all he does for her. She says that she appreciates him and shows it to him through her kindness, affection and consideration.She believes her lover is sexy and attractive and shows it to him through sincere compliments and her intense desire for him. She trusts her lover and supports him every day. In other words she appreciates her boyfriend and treats him in such a way that he feels her appreciation.<figure class="image"><img src="https://res.cloudinary.com/dvuq9n454/image/upload/v1588243341/h4fxm6uqganxqu5mbib9.jpg" alt=""></figure>You also can succeed If you want to know how such a woman makes her lover feel, imagine that you are this man, who is fulfilled and delighted by his girlfriend. Imagine how you’d feel if you were him. Basically you as a woman you also want your boyfriend to make you feel very happy and satisfied. It’s natural for him to want that from you.Be attentive and discover what would make your lover feel: happy, appreciated, fulfilled, respected, and loved. You can become irresistible if you learn how to behave with your lover in the way he dreams. The man you love will be delighted by your transformation and will show it to you … and then you will be very happy that you have chosen to do so!&nbsp;

Why are men so attracted by fascinating women

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&nbsp;<blockquote>"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong" - Mahatma Gandhi</blockquote>All of us want to feel free. In our essence, each one of us wants to be truly happy. Yet how come there are so many unhappy people in this world? And why don’t we see in the media and in the News regularly real life stories of happy people and not just stories of revenge and resentment? It seems that pain is more popular than peace. Is the world really such an unhappy place?Before judging the world though, maybe it’s a good idea to look at ourselves. Do we have control of the happy and equanimous steering wheel? Or are we just veering off the road into a head on collision with pain?Throughout our lives, we face different challenges and experiences. As women, we have all been hurt, suffered and experienced pain: difficult parenting, relationships ending, broken hearts. Too often we build barriers to the world, shielding ourselves from further attack and future pain.How many of us, after each relationship or challenging moment, can say that we walk away with a clean slate, without any grievances, without any feelings of negativity that we hold inside? In any confrontational situation, who is actually the one responsible for our own suffering and ultimately our own ability to free ourselves from this?Let’s speak about forgiveness. You knew the subject was coming. Don’t move onto the next article. It’s really not as hard and undesirable as you think. Actually, it’s the key for happiness and healing.&nbsp;<blockquote>"Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear." - Nelson Mandela</blockquote>Forgiveness is a great quality that brings transformation, enabling us to overcome some powerful issues in our being that hold us back and stop us from being centred and present in our hearts. We need to do this. If you see yourself living the same story again and again but with different people, if you find yourself unable to open your heart to love, if it’s really difficult for you to find your peace, then forgiving is exactly what you need to do. It can be possible that maybe it’s not the current situation that’s the problem, but an unresolved trauma or conflict from many years ago. It’s time to let it go.Confucius said ‘ Before going into revenge dig two graves; one for you and one for them’When we hold onto resentment and grievances, we just keep the pain inside of us. Our cells remember this and keep the memory of that event. When something similar happens later, and it can be many years later, all the emotions and reactions come flooding back. It doesn’t have to be a huge event. It might not even be something you remember. Maybe as a young child, your mother left you in the supermarket alone for 2 minutes when she went to look for something and you felt totally abandoned. If in that moment, emotionally it had an impact, those feelings of abandonment will resurface again and again in your life. Let’s break these chains and cycles!Forgiveness is rooted in our human nature.&nbsp; It is difficult to grasp as it is beyond the mind.Few know truly how to forgive, others confuse it with weakness. Actually it takes a courageous person, to make the choice to forgive.Forgiveness gives space subtly and helps us to overcome limits and blockages which exist when we resent. Forgiving creates unity instead of separation.When we are unforgiving we live in the past. We just feel bad states and then we miss the present moment as we are so stuck in the past and this ruins our future.Resenting something and thus, holding on to reactions that continue to disturb us, lead us to being out of balance and not being centred in the heart. When we resent or feel upset with someone about something, we think excessively, we suffer emotionally and ultimately physically.One day, a Zen master asked his disciples, whether they resent anyone. Almost everyone nodded “Yes”.He gave them each a bag and told them to fill it with potatoes. If they resent someone, then they should put a potato in the bag. If they resent two people, two potatoes needed to go in the small bag. In addition to this he told them to carry this bag wherever they went.The disciples thought this was a simple task and agreed to do it. The disciples carried the potatoes everywhere. After some days the potatoes started to rot and started to smell bad.The disciples found it very difficult to carry them. So they went to the Zen master and asked whether they could stop.The Zen master laughed loudly and said “This is what happens in your mind when you fill it with resentment.” He continued “If you promise to remove resentment and hatred from your mind then you can throw your potatoes away”.Forgiveness is the peace you feel when you let go of a grievance. Forgiveness is for you as well as for the offender. Forgiveness is about taking responsibility of our emotions and feelings. Forgiveness is something we can train. Forgiveness is about becoming a heroine instead of being a victim. Forgiveness is a choice we make.Everyone can forgive.

The importance of Forgiveness

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A continuous self-transforming journey through belly dance 

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Sacred Belly Dance Group

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Yoni Tantra Yoga 

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The mysterious, ancient art of becoming a living Goddess

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Women's Tantra Circle

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Our imagination is the strongest aphrodisiac! Not constrained by anything exterior, our imagination is free to create the juiciest encounters and most sublime adventures. ❤️But did you know that this can be trained and cultivated?Playing with our erotic imagination is a wonderful way to awaken sensuality, unlock creativity and to discover new depths of our feminine eroticism. It is even a truly enjoyable method to train a calm and focused mind.&nbsp;In this Goddess nights we will explore our erotic imagination and you will have the chance to create your own love story…Join us on Saturday, 15th May from 7 - 8:30pm BST to unlock our imagination together in a very feminine and playful way.Cost: £5Once you sign up, the confirmation email will be sent to you via email. Please check your junk box as well.&nbsp;

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Unlock your erotic imagination

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FREE Intro session on 9th May from 7 - 7:45pm BST with experienced teacher Raluca Duda🌸 The first 10 women who sign up to the course will receive a £10 discount. Use promo code BELLY10 at the checkout.Register <a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYldeusqjgjGdZ63hN62PSL5xwo5minCSAL" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">HERE</a> for the free intro session.Raluca will guide us through some basic moves and give an outline of what to expect from the upcoming mini-course. In a sisterly and supportive group setting we will taste how sacred belly dance can open us to be more sensual, confident and in tune with our bodies.We will look at:<ul><li>The central theme that will be explored through this mini course</li><li>How sacred belly dance moves and philosophy can awaken and dynamise your inner fire, making you more self-confident, optimistic and energetic</li><li>Awakening the feminine fire for increasing our energy and effectiveness levels in all areas of life</li></ul><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-AM3izzVh0A">Sacred Belly Dance with Venus - YouTube&nbsp;</a>Course starts on Sunday, 16th from 7 - 8pm BSTFull course price: £50Recordings available.&nbsp;During the 4 week course we will:<ul><li>In a feminine, fun and playful atmosphere learn a belly dance choreography, as well as exercises that increase freedoms of movement</li><li>Discover how belly dance moves and philosophy can increase your inner fire, making you more self-confident, optimistic and courageous</li><li>Awaken the feminine fire for increasing our energy and effectiveness levels in all areas of life</li><li>Become more conscious of our body, develop a beautiful posture, and learn to move with elegance and grace</li><li>A natural toning of the abdomen and waist occurs through belly dance thanks to awakening of inner fire</li><li>Learn how to transform your huge sexual potential into pure energy, which will make you a super fascinating woman!</li></ul>About: Raluca is a former professional ice skater and coach and has performed in belly dance competitions at national level. She has many years of experience as a dancer and actress. Raluca studied psychology and has been practicing Tantra Yoga for 23 years. She is passionate about helping women reach their full potential through sacred dance. Her classes are full of energy and she creates a supportive, loving and sacred space.Once you sign up, the confirmation email will be sent to you via email. Please check your junk box as well.&nbsp;

Introductory module into the ancient art of Sacred belly dance

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Sacred Belly dance 

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Many studies have shown that there is an overwhelming majority of women who are uncomfortable with the appearance of their breasts. In our Western society, breasts are a major component of a woman’s identity and they are often judged and compared.A symbol of beauty, compassion, generosity and maternal love, breasts have always been associated with motherhood or with the sensuality of the woman and they represent a very important and special part of our body, directly connected to our feminine energy.We invite you to this very special mini course coming up soon in which we will discover how to connect more to the physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of our breasts.The purpose of this 5 week mini course is to:<ul><li>address any fears or questions you have about your breasts</li><li>bring your awareness to your breasts and start to really embrace them as a wonderful party of your body, femininity and sensuality</li><li>help you connect to, and start to awaken, the energy of your breasts</li><li>help you to become more comfortable and confident with them</li><li>learn about breast orgasms</li><li>present daily rituals with massage techniques, medicinal plants and diet that you can adopt for the beauty, firmness and increasing the size of your breasts</li></ul>Course starts on Wednesday 28th April from 7:00pm – 8:30pm BSTPrice: £75 for members (find out more about our membership <a href="https://www.venuswomen.com/goddess-temple" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">here</a>)£90 for non membersPlease contact us if you wish to sign up for this course.Recordings available.&nbsp;Once you sign up, the cofirmation email will be sent to you via email. Please check your junk box as well.&nbsp;About: Cristina Aura is a certified Yoga teacher and she’s been coordinating for a couple of years women’s groups which focus on awakening the mysterious breasts potential. She has been on her spiritual journey for 17 years, exploring Tantric spirituality and permanently focusing on the integration of the authentic spiritual knowledge in the modern daily life. By constantly discovering the fascinating universe of femininity and learning new ways of blossoming as a woman she aims to inspire women all over the world to connect more with the energy of their breasts as reconnection to their femininity, heart and sensuality.

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